What I'm going to talk about now was true about fifty years ago. The way things have changed since then, I'm not sure if the same things hold true now.
I have always been one to try to obtain what I wanted. When I was younger and single the main thing on my mind was the young ladies. Back then the man was the one who was expected to make the first moves toward a relationship of any kind. If a girl was to ask a boy for a date she would have been considered "fast" and definitely would not have been respected.
I have always known that personality means more than looks, but looks are the first thing that usually attracts the opposite sex. Of course, like all the boys, I wanted to meet and date the good looking girls. It is personality that makes the difference in how a relationship progresses.
One thing I came to realize not long after I started chasing the girls was that most boys had a lot of pride and did not like being turned down by the girls. They thought that all the boys would be after the good looking girls and their chance of getting dates with them would be slim and they would be turned down most of the time. Their fear of rejection kept them from approaching the better looking girls.
What this meant to me was there was less competition for the good looking girls. With fewer boys chasing them it was easier to get a date with them than with the average looking girls. I dated some beautiful girls with less competition.
One way that this has helped throughout my life is knowing that if you want something you should to after it. Your chance of succeeding might be better than you think.