Oftentimes when a woman has come out of a failed marriage her vision is not as clear as it needs to be regarding dating. Re-entering the social arena can be a bit daunting especially when her prospects will most likely be divorced men.
There are several danger zones one must recognize in order to stay guarded in a healthy manner. These 4 types of Divorced Men send warning signals that do go off once the indicator light registers red. Just like you would check your engine when the warning light goes on, check your heart on whether or not this is who you want to indulge and insert into your life and that of your children.
1. Control Freak Fred - he may seem strong and confident at first but you will start to notice signs of him needing to be with you, around you and in your conversations 24/7. He is unstable, possessive and very needy. Adding him to your calendar will be like having a new born baby to tend to all day long without a break. Steer clear unless you are a glutton for punishment.
2. Cheap Skate Charlie - he has a very different way of handling money than what you are comfortable doing. He may give himself permission to tell you how, when and where to spend your dollars whether you asked him or not. He will want to be involved in your financial decisions, online banking and choices on how you spend money on your kids. Honestly, you can't afford to have him in your life.
3. Socially Selfish Stan - Family and Friends are precious in our lives, so it is critical for you to pay attention to how this new man relates to the important people in your world. If he is trying to isolate you - steer clear. You may soon find yourself a castaway talking to Wilson.
4. Passive Paul - This is the guy who has an ex-wife and children but doesn't communicate well with you about them. Not that you want to dine over the details of his divorce, but if he has obligations to her financially that will affect your time together you should know. If he has made commitments to his kids without telling you and you think you are having a romantic weekend alone, this should be a red flag.
Guys that are evasive are usually not real dependable or trustworthy.The most important lesson for a woman during this season is to recognize she is valuable, vivacious and victorious. The world is a new canvas waiting for your creative influences. You don't need a man to tell you how to live or to steal life from you as you wish to embark upon this new journey. This is a time for you to be wise with both eyes open and a heart strong and full. Know what you want and don't settle for less. This is your moment. You deserve the best!
Dating and Relationship Coach Expert
Jonathon Aslay is a Dating and Relationship Coach who is a Heart Protector for Women and a Guy Spy into the male mind.
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